Would you keep yourself locked in a prison if you had the choice to simply unlock the door and walk out?  Giving yourself the gift to Choose to Forgive, unlocks the door to the emotional prison that is the absolute result of not Forgiving yourself or Forgiving another.

Choosing to Forgive is a difficult thing to do when you feel and believe that you have been harmed, whether intentionally or  unintentionally.  If you can see that not Forgiving is harming you possibly more than the infliction you experienced, if you can see this it would assist you in choosing to Forgive.

Harming yourself

The harm that is created in you by you not Forgiving,  is the same as you holding a bag inside your body and keeping it filled with dark energies of resentment, anger, self-pity, and victimhood. Not Forgiving keeps you clutching this bag as you continue to feel these dark energies over and over. Of course, dark thoughts also go along with this not-Forgiving Bag.  Because our perception of life is the actual creation of our world, that is the life we experience, it is important how we choose to look at it. 

Our Perception of reality Creates our reality. How can you have a Clear perception when a swirling ball of darkness is mudding up your view?  It is not possible to have a Balanced Wholesome Healthy insight and discernment on any subject or on any area of your life when you carry this dark bag around inside of you. Its like staying in a cell with bars and the only view out is peering around and between the bars. How can you have a perception of Balance and Harmony when you feel like a victim? Or your Heart is filled with anger?  The results of holding these negative energies produces a warped view of that particular aspect of your life. For example if you cannot Forgive a past lover for an experience that was painful, how can you be open to a new lover in a Healthy way, while still holding on to that pain from the past?  How can you even know if the new lover is a good match for you when your personal vibration carries the dark energies of  not Forgiving?  Remember like vibrations attract like vibrations ---- you would attract someone who also carries dark energies within.   Forgiving opens the way for the Universe/Spirit to supply you with a new more Uplifting and Healthier experience.

Karma

Hanging on to this not-Forgiving bag also keeps you tied in a karmic way to the person or persons who you are not forgiving.

Its like a bond you have with them, not a loving bond but an unloving bond, and who needs an unloving bond with anyone?  It means you would have to resolve this negative karma with this person or persons at some future time, possibly a next lifetime.  That, or experience a similar painful situation again and again, until such time as you understand and can allow yourself to be Free of it. Simply by Forgiving.

Once you learn to Forgive yourself, it is easier to forgive others. Accepting and Understanding that we make mistakes, some times huge mistakes just like Every other Human Being. Often mistakes made in youth are not realized or understood as mistakes until much later in life. Example of this is the mistakes young parents make not realizing the damage or pain they may be causing their children due to things they say or do. This is when both older parents and grown-up children must accept their family-group learning lessons and LET GO and FORGIVE!!!!  When Forgiveness is not extended to yourself and to other family members you allow the same negative situation to continue on to the next generation and the next, until someone in the family decides to Stop it and HEAL it by Forgiving. Forgiving Opens Your Heart. An open Heart Receives LOVE and SETS YOU FREE!

Many times a painful experience is perpetuated by both parties involved because neither will try to understand where the other was coming from, each simply blaming the other without looking at their own part in the situation, without accepting any responsibility for their own words or actions.  Almost always as the old saying goes, there are two sides to every story.  Putting in the effort to at least try to understand what the other person was thinking or doing (their view) helps you to Let Go and Forgive.  Sometimes just seeing that the other person (or yourself) is locked in ego-mode or they are simply not capable of moving beyond the painful situation they contributed to, is enough for you to move beyond it yourself, to Forgive them, and to Forgive yourself if necessary. And its good to know that even though the other person may hang on to the anger and pain and won\'t let go, you still are Set Free from them and the situation, when you do Forgive. When you choose to Forgive, you are turning your back and walking away from a negative karmic bondage, thus setting yourself free from an emotional prison.

Death of a Loved One

The death of a Loved One can generate varying degrees of guilt, sometimes making it difficult to Forgive yourself.  Complete Healing from the loss of a Loved One includes Self-Forgiveness. To get past the guilt in order to Forgive yourself it is wise to See the experience that you and your Loved One shared, the experience that caused the guilt, to See it from a Spiritual perspective. And that is this: 

           Be Aware that your Loved One now resides in a Higher-Frequency-Realm and Fully Forgives you and Understands                                 that your experience together was a shared experience, one on each side, Learning the Lessons for Soul. That all that was said and done was done due to the circumstances in the moment, possibly in a moment of fear or lack of communication or whatever the situation that created the resultant guilt.  Your Loved One on the other side Sees it this way. From Soul\'s perspective you are Fully Forgiven.  Embracing the Awareness of this allows you then to also Fully Forgive Yourself. Once you See this you Realize that truly there is nothing to Forgive!  Because It is all simply Souls interacting with each other in order to accomplish the third dimensional lessons that Beautiful Mother Earth offers. The Evolvement of Soul is the reason we all come to this lower-frequency-realm.  Not Forgiving yourself keeps you stuck in the past and keeps you stuck in pain, which slows down your own Unfoldment.   

Forgiving Ceaselessly

Communication in this third dimensional reality is very limited when compared to the Higher Dimensions where the norm is mental telepathy, where nothing is hidden, and all thought and intention is Pure and of the Highest Good for All.  Due to this limited communication here, painful mistakes all through life are made by us to others and by others to us, which means that maintaining a personal Higher Frequency requires a continuous choosing to Forgive.   Ceaseless Forgiving is the way of Enlightenment.

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